Whole life in 24 hours

I might have mentioned the last book I read. It's called 'Before I Go To Sleep' by S.J. Watson. I have to admit it's one of the best books I ever read and recently finished reading it. The story is about a woman who wakes up every morning and has no memory. She can't remember anything. Imagine you wake up, and don't know where you are, or even who you are? Every day you have to discover yourself.

She only has a few memories of her youth, and sometimes she can remember a few things, but after she went to sleep and wake up the next morning, it's like the last day didn't exist. She only lives for the day. The time has no meaning. The man she wakes up with every morning, she can't remember him either but has to believe what he tells her. About their marriage, about their son, about their life. Every day the same.

Her doctor had the idea that she should write some sort of journal and he calls and reminds her every day to read what she did the days before, and what memories she had. And so she writes about her life every day that she can re-read the thoughts she had that day some days after. That she can read her own memories, and has not just believe what others tell about her and her life. So the diary gets longer and longer, and the reader is like that woman who reads her journal and gets to know about her and her life.

Living with no memory of yourself and your life is really hard.

It let me start thinking about memories. What would we be without them? Isn't it our memory that makes the person that we are right now? We remember the good and the bad things that occured to us in life. We met people, those we can trust, and some who really disappointed us in any way. Luckily I haven't met many belonging to the last group of people, but I do have met some weird guys, and also some mean and dishonest people. Memories help us not to do the same mistake again, and also let us remember the people who once left us can so that they can still be alive in our memories.

How would it be for you losing your memory? That you don't know who you are, how your name is, to whom you're married? That you don't recognize your own kids, or brothers and sisters? I guess it would drive me crazy. It's like starting a new life over and over again, and don't have any life at all. I mean you neither have a past nor a future. You just live right here and right now. It's like meeting a stranger, but also knowing that you're meeting yourself. Every day is like a whole life. Next one starting tomorrow after waking up, will last 24 hours or less, depending on when you fall asleep, and then it will all start again.

Forgive but never forget

So many things happen in our life. And not every time these are good ones. The bad ones are the things that we keep more often in mind. But why is this the case? Maybe we think we only deserve the good things in life so we take it as ‘normal’ when something good happen to us. But it is ‘strange’ or not ‘fair’ if anything bad happen to us. So we can’t understand that and therefore we keep this things longer in our mind.

It is not always bad if something bad happens to us. We all have to make mistakes that we can learn and grow with them. If we would not do these, we would standing still, being constantly at the same point and do not move, neither forward nor backward. So all the bad things make us stronger. That is why we should never forget them and always remember them.

When we were treated badly in some way and we realized after a while, some months or years later, that these people have changed and are sorry for what they did to you in the past, we can forgive them but we should never forget. Because we wouldn’t be the person we are today if we would not had to go through these tough times. To forgive someone is important because you also would want that someone would forgive you after you have done a mistake or treaten someone badly and you have to admit that you are not a saint and always just nice.

We all have our tough times, we are all not always friendly. Maybe you have a hard time and so you can’t understand someone else being happy, so you say something inappropriate. You are sorry afterwards because you didn’t mean it that way and you hope that this person will accept your apology. So it is important to forgive someone but you should never forget.