Forgive but never forget

So many things happen in our life. And not every time these are good ones. The bad ones are the things that we keep more often in mind. But why is this the case? Maybe we think we only deserve the good things in life so we take it as ‘normal’ when something good happen to us. But it is ‘strange’ or not ‘fair’ if anything bad happen to us. So we can’t understand that and therefore we keep this things longer in our mind.

It is not always bad if something bad happens to us. We all have to make mistakes that we can learn and grow with them. If we would not do these, we would standing still, being constantly at the same point and do not move, neither forward nor backward. So all the bad things make us stronger. That is why we should never forget them and always remember them.

When we were treated badly in some way and we realized after a while, some months or years later, that these people have changed and are sorry for what they did to you in the past, we can forgive them but we should never forget. Because we wouldn’t be the person we are today if we would not had to go through these tough times. To forgive someone is important because you also would want that someone would forgive you after you have done a mistake or treaten someone badly and you have to admit that you are not a saint and always just nice.

We all have our tough times, we are all not always friendly. Maybe you have a hard time and so you can’t understand someone else being happy, so you say something inappropriate. You are sorry afterwards because you didn’t mean it that way and you hope that this person will accept your apology. So it is important to forgive someone but you should never forget.

Little wonders

"Stop thinking about fun, have it." - Homer Simpson

Vacation. What a wonderful word. What a wonderful thing to think about. Spending some time somewhere else and forget your everyday problems, the stress that you have in your job. When you don’t have to think about anything, just relax and live for the day. You can do whatever you want, you feel happy and you want that this will be forever.

When someone comes to you, telling that you have to enjoy your stay because soon everything will be again as usual, you get into some kinda panic. Don’t think about it, you say to yourself. You notice that not only you feel happy, that your whole family is happier than ever. You want no change. You don’t want to go back. This cruise, this trip should never end. You might try to convince yourself that there is a chance to let this last forever.

But soon you have to realize that you can’t hold on time. That this can’t last forever. It’s not that you say: this is the only time I had some fun and therefore it’s supposed to be forever, because afterwards you'll have all the stress and worries back. It’s that you appreciate the few happy moments in your life. You wouldn’t be able to do that, if you would only have such pleasant moments. You have to have all the stress as well, that you recognize how wonderful and special the good times are.

Do not think about when you had fun the last time, or think about how great was it back then and how tough it is now. Live every single moment, take any chance of fun. Bart had to realise that in the last Simpsons episode and I like that, because I can understand him. You want to be happy and you want your family to be happy, too. And you do everything that this will remain. But Homer was also right showing him that fun can be everywhere, you just have to be aware of it.

This episode also reminded me of one of my absolute fave songs: Little wonders by Rob Thomas. It describes that you have to appreciate these special, pleasant moments in your life, these little wonders it has to offer you.

A rollercoaster ride

It makes fun. Everyone who ever did it knows that. Maybe some had to struggle with themselves until they did it and some did it without thinking. But both of them are proud of themselves afterwards. Some are screaming, some are smiling. Some love the speed of it, that it goes up and down so fast. It is fascinating and most guys want to take a second ride after the first and another and another.

But what about the ride we got for free? What about our own life? It goes up and down all the time. We can’t get out, we can’t go back, we go forward, always. But we are our own engine. We have to find the strength for getting up after we fell. Some are exhausted, and when it goes down and down and down like a free fall, some might have lost this strength.

But keep in mind, when you wanna go up, you have to go down first. It is like a bird who wants to fly: first it falls, but then it goes up flying. Some might see you falling, others see you flying. Like always: it’s the perspective. You can’t go up all the time. If the down wouldn’t exist, the up wouldn’t, too. So everything would just be a straight road. No curves, no acclivities, no slopes. Just a straight road. And now think about such a rollercoaster ride. Wouldn’t it be less fun?

Of course it can be hard, when you feel like being stuck in a deep hole. But you have to find the right tools, and take all our strength and will, and maybe you fail the first time or the second, but you will find your way out. And then you will be happy that you did it. But if you give up, it’s like leaving the rollercoaster in the middle of the ride and you want to enjoy the full ride, won’t you?